refrain FROM SEXUAL MISCONDUCTToomuch sexual abuse and indulgence tires your body, and exhaustsyour mental powers which should be conserved for the greatestenlightenment, and to help yourself and to help mankind. It ismore noble that way. That's all. Sexual misconduct means you havetoo many girlfriends, too many boy friends, too many husbandsand wives. It exhausts your storehouse of energy.
..... Itis very simple, it means that if you have a husband already, pleasedon't consider a second! Keep your life more simple, no complicationsand quarrelling over emotions. It causes hurt feelings for otherpeople. We don't harm other people, even emotionally. We try toavoid conflicts, try to avoid suffering emotionally, physicallyand mentally for everyone, especially our loved ones. That's all.If you already have a lover, don't tell him or her. It hurts morewhen you tell. Just solve it slowly and quietly, and don't confessto him. Sometimes, people think if they have an affair, and theygo home and confess to their wife or their husband, that it isvery wise and very honest. It's nonsense. It is no good. You alreadymade the mistake, why bring your garbage home and let other peopleenjoy it? If he doesn't know about it, he doesn't feel that bad.The fact of knowing hurts. So we try to solve that problem andnot to have it again, and that's it.
..... Q. I saw in Your leaflet that there are five precepts.Once you are initiated, you have to live according to these fiveprecepts?
M.Yes, yes, yes. These are the laws of the universe.
Q. I don't understand sexual misconduct.
M.It means if you have a husband already, please don't considerthe second.
Q. Okay. (Audience laughs)
M.Very simple. Keep your life more simple, no complication and quarrelingover emotions. Yes. It causes hurt feelings for other people.We don't harm other people, even emotionally. That's what it is.We try to avoid conflicts, try to avoid suffering, emotionally,physically, mentally for everyone, especially our loved ones,that's all. Okay? If you already have one, don't tell him. Ithurts more when you tell. Just solve it slowly and quietly, anddon't confess to him. Because sometimes people think if they havean affair, and then they go home and confess to his wife or herhusband, that's very wise and very honest. It's nonsense. It'sno good. You already made mistake, why you bring garbage homeand to let other people enjoy it? If he doesn't know about it,he doesn't feel that bad. You understand? The fact of knowinghurts. So we try to solve that problem and not to have it again,and that's it. Better not to talk to the partner about this, becauseit will hurt them, hurt the partners. Yeah!
..... Q. Master, oneof the five precepts is refrain from sexual misconduct. How doesthis apply to singles?
M. Oh! What we mean is that you shouldbe faithful to each other. But in the case of some of the otherreligious orders, they may, due to their tradition, have manywives. If they already had them before initiation, then that doesn'tmean they have to separate and take only one. But in the generalcase we tell people to refrain from having too many ties, becauseif you have one wife, I think you suffer enough. Oh, sorry. (Laughter)I mean... I am sorry. Don't kill me please. What I mean is thesuffering in affairs of the heart are very heavy for the wifeor the husband to bear. And that you don't want to cause to otherpeople, let alone your beloved friends, or the mother or fatherof your children.
So that's why we say refrain from having another affair if youare already married. But if you already have before initiation,just keep it like that. And better don't let the other to knoweach other. Minimize the suffering. The less suffering the better,because it will affect you also. You will have a bad conscienceand guilty feelings. How can you meditate in peace? When you meditateyou want to think about God. All you think about is the secondor the third wife. Yeah! How she wanted to beat you last nightbecause you came late, etc., etc. Or you bought better clothesfor the other one etc., etc. Aiya! so many troubles. It hurts.That's why. That is called sexual misconduct.
But in the case of people who are not yet married, of course inthe modern time, I can not tell people don't, don't, don't dothat, you know. Yeah! Then try to be faithful to each other, yeah?It's good for the heart, good for your moral and good for themutual trust between each other and especially good for your health,you know nowadays. You read newspapers more than I do. The lettersspelled very big. Should I say more? More and more people diefrom AIDS each day, so take care of yourself...... Q. Do you respect homosexual relationships the sameas you do heterosexual ones?
M.I don't know really, I am not expert in both.(laughter) All Ican tell you is why do you identify yourself with the body andcall yourself a homosexual or a heterosexual at all? We are notthe body, brothers, we are the holy spirit. We are love incarnated,we are all wisdom, we are the Supreme Master of all things inthe universe. Why do you identify yourself in such a manner anddegrading yourself and making yourself feel inferior by classifyingyourself as such and such. Know yourself as God, get enlightenmentand all these things are just matter of temporary transit.
