how TO BE BEAUTIFUL
Hsihu Center, Formosa November 12, 1995.Ourbeauty comes from inside. Of course the outside should be neattoo, but just looking reasonably good is enough in this aspect!I have promised to teach you how to be a good wife, how to make-upand dress up beautifully in five minutes so you can go out immediately,even to a dinner party. But then I thought again, where shouldwe begin to beautify ourselves? Beauty is not just your face.Most important is the warm feeling between a husband and a wife,the atmosphere of understanding each other, helping each other,and protecting each other.
The outside beauty appearance looks good atfirst sight, but it will not look good after you look at it fora long time. In cases of illness or accidents, the outside beautifulappearance disappears in a short time. Having only a beautifulappearance but no joy and warmth inside, both husbands and wivescannot bear that after looking at each other for a long time.For instance, some have a half-dead appearance or a face thatlooks like a kind of reincarnated Buddha -- a bitter-melon-faceQuan Yin Bodhisattva, etc... (Audience laughs.) These people mustreflect upon themselves.
Dressing beautifully does not mean wearingexpensive clothes, but putting on a smiling face and having awelcoming atmosphere. These are the most beautiful 'garments.'Try putting them on! (Audience applauds.) The outside appearanceis not very important. Sometimes we think we are not pretty, butbe gentle and cordial - always smile when seeing your husband.When the husband is angry, you just smile saying, "What displeasedyou? Please tell me!" and comfort him, hug him. He then willbe pacified. But if you both get angry, even God cannot do anythinggood! Likewise, when a wife is angry, her husband should comforther with a smile, hug her, and ask her what's wrong. Talk soothingly,then she will calm down. Being a good wife does not only dependon your face. Originally, I was going to teach you how to dressnicely and how to please your husbands. Now I'll forget aboutthat. Not knowing where to start, it is very hard to teach sometimes.
A beautiful appearance will come naturally.Just meditate more and react according to your family situation;don't just depend on your face. But the face is also important,it is part of the criteria of being a good wife. Every morning,your face is the first thing your husband sees when he wakes up.If your face is terrible, he will have bad day-dreams all dayin his office (Audience laughs.) Coming home in the evening, thelast face he sees is also yours. If you again give him a longface, he will have even more nightmares all night. We spiritualpractitioners should have merciful hearts. (Audience laughs andapplauds.)
